I am 24, and have severe separation anixety when apart from my husband. I have also had panic attacks, since I was a toddler. My husband, in the past has suffered from depression, and went through a time where he would go missing for 24 hours or a couple of days without contacting me. This seemed to trigger this period major anxiety. He has had therapy and is well over his problem. This has gone on for 4 years and has prevented him getting a job because my panic attacks bcame so severe. I didn’t even go to the toilet on my own. It should never have got this far, but it has. I have 2 lovely children, aged 2 and 1. My husband is doing a training course to help get him back into work which is full time. This is the 3rd day and I am totally overwhelmed. I feel like running away. I feel its too much to go from no separation whatsoever to this full time. I wanted to make it work, but I feel like running away. I dont know what to do, I’m ruining everyones lives the way I am
I tried to get therapy but no one would see me with my husband, so I got really stuck. Even now, if I could go, nothing is going to come quick enough and I feel terrified. No one seems to understand, everyone seems to think will power alone will get me through, but I don;t think so. I want to run away
I did try prozac when I was younger, and didn’t really feel the benefits. I use propranolol, which I find really effective, but on the down side I have low blood pressure (around 97/56) so it can make me feel a bit light headed if I take it when its too low
Hi, sorry to hear you are feeling so bad. The following steps will eliminate (or at least significantly reduce) your panic attacks and should help alleviate your separation anxiety:
1.Breathe properly – if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.
2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to be the most effective thing for panic attacks, OCD and separation anxiety etc. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can speak to your doctor about taking a course or you can take a course for free online at: ww.livinglifetothefull.com
3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really help if you practise often enough. You can get free downloads online, e.g. http://www.studentservices.utas.edu.au/counselling/audio_resources/index.html
With each step practise makes perfect. (i.e. practise the steps every day, not just when you are feeling bad). Think think you’ll find CBT a major help. I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck!